You certainly can relate yourself to one of three categories of people:
- You are in a romantic relationship.
- You are looking for a life partner.
- You are recovering from a previous unfortunate experience.
Harmonious relationships – this is one of the most important components of a happy life. But just the harmony often seems to be an unattainable ideal.
One can accept the fact that life is imperfect, and accept the emerging problems as an inevitable component of the relationship. And there are several options:
- Convince yourself that love is joy, accessible only to the young.
- Go to work with a head and remain a proud bachelor.
- Find a new partner and start over.
- Become unsatisfied irritable type and recoup in the comments to our articles.
And you can try to treat love as a science: to study the laws by which it develops in order to consciously move towards harmonious relationships.
Many books are written about love, though mostly about the unhappy. Many psychologists are working to help all those who have suffered from love. But most of them find the reason in the person himself or in the errors of education, which only becomes an additional reason for disappointment in himself.
Dean Delis and Cassandra Phillips relate to the problem differently. Everyone, even the closest to the ideal couple, sooner or later is trapped: one – a man or a woman – begins to love another slightly more and falls into a “subordinate position.” There is an imbalance.
The paradox of passion can suddenly show up at any time. He can ruin both a new romance and a lasting relationship. It can be caused by various sources of imbalance: the more attractive force of one of the partners, the objective circumstances, the “playing roles” of partners or the incompatibility of individual characteristics.
Dean Delis and Cassandra Phillips, “The Paradox of Passion”
It is important that, faced with a similar problem, both partners suffer: the subordinate – from the lack of love and attention, and the presenter – from the lack of personal space and remorse.
The book “The Paradox of Passion” will first help you determine your role in the relationship, and then give recommendations for work on eliminating problems. Ideally, of course, you need the participation of both partners. But the most wonderful thing is that even one-sided work will help you shift the center of gravity towards harmonious relations. You can restore love and harmony yourself.
The book has already captured me in the second chapter, where the mechanism of the paradox of passion is considered. The authors do not try to find the cause in childhood traumas or justify the fading of feelings by the incompatibility of the characters. Instead, they point to the point of imbalance and argue that there is always a way out.
About the format
The book is rather big, but not heavy. The first part is devoted to situations that arise in life and lead to imbalances (rapprochement, differences in the way of life of husband and wife, change of work or social circle, appearance of children). Examples are real stories.
The second part contains instructions on how to return love and create an equal relationship.
Layfak for those who do not like to read
If you want to get started quickly, you can immediately move on to the practical part. But it is important that you correctly define your role in the relationship. Chapters 3 and 5 will help you.
“The paradox of passion. She loves him, but he does not, “Dean Delis and Cassandra Phillips
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