How often do we dream of being liked by everyone? And how much to do this! You need to be cheerful, interesting, charismatic, a good listener. The list can be continued very long. But here’s what’s worth noting. It is impossible to please absolutely every person. This is simply impossible, and in our article on Lifshacker we have already been told why.
But if you like everyone and everyone you can not, then it’s still possible to be a person with whom it is simply interesting to communicate. This is also not easy and requires many qualities, but at least it’s real. And for this you need to observe several rules.
Do not be a bore
It is very difficult for us to understand that we are boring at a given time, because each of us considers ourselves to be the best in everything. You tell an interesting story and see that people yawn? Perhaps this story is not as interesting as it seems. Try to complete it and give voice to other people.
The most charismatic people are always good listeners
People like to talk about themselves loved ones, and that’s why there’s always a lack of good listeners. Let your interlocutor tell you about yourself. Ask him questions. Strange, but people who like us the most, always say little.
Discuss the interests of the interlocutor
This problem is very well revealed in the book by Dale Carnegie, a review on which you can find here. Learn from the interlocutor about his hobby, ask questions. And discuss them. You are already 80% close to being liked. If you are well versed in the interlocutor’s hobby, then you can easily keep up the conversation. If not, ask him in more detail. He will tell you with great pleasure.
Rule of 3 stories
People are not interested in the functions of your new phone. What really turns them on is the real stories that happened to you. Dramas and reality shows have become popular for a reason. Therefore, always keep in stock 3 interesting stories about which you can tell. These stories should be exciting, emotional and attractive. People should be wondering what will happen next minute?
Charisma
There is so much sense in this word that it becomes difficult to understand what it all means. Someone says that they are born with charisma, and someone thinks that this skill is developed over the years. But here’s what’s interesting:
A study conducted by two psychologists in 1967 proved that only 7% of the attention was in words. The interlocutor pays the other attention to the tone of speech and body language.
Laugh out loud. Smile. Be emotional. Do not forget about gestures and do not rely solely on words.
Live an interesting life
Communicate with interesting people, read interesting books. People with whom you spend time, very much affect your character, whether you like it or not. The most correct way to become interesting is to live an interesting life. And believe me, this will give you much more than a simple opportunity to be an interesting interlocutor.
